Updated on December 29, 2015
2015 Lessons Learned
You can achieve anything you put your mind to. Everything starts with a thought. Thinking about something long enough eventually materializes. Thoughts become reality. I don’t mean you just sit and think throughout, rather you imagine what you want to achieve and create ways to achieve it. When the universe puts a dream in your heart, all you need to make it a reality is put at your disposal. I have achieved so much this year because I did put all my mind to my dreams.
“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe”– Gail Devers
Patience and perseverance is key. One of the hardest lesson to learn is how to maintain a positive mental attitude as we wait for something to happen. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and so is whatever you are working for. Sometimes the road to your dreams might get rough and rocky. Sometimes you’ll feel like giving it all up because nothing seems to work. But in life, whether trans or cis, things take time. Everything unfolds at its own pace. Sometimes it’s hard to be patient and wait for our time when we look outwards and see how our colleagues and friends have achieved what we want; they are on hormone replacement therapy, they have undergone their surgeries blah blah. They seem to have it all together but we have nothing. That’s the time that calls for utmost patience and persevering. Knowing that our turn is closer than we think. It took me a lifetime of patience to start my hormone therapy. I watched others do before me. Still I believed my time will come. And it did come eventually.
“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.” ―Randy Pausch
Enjoy the moment. Life is not about reaching the destination, but about the journey. We focus so much on attaining our dreams and plans; changing our names, starting hormone replacement therapy, being in a relationship, that we forget about what it takes to get there. We forget about enjoying what we already have and what is happening in the moment; having a beautiful family, having good health, having an education, having abundance of fresh air and food and so much more. Sometimes we forget the gift of life itself and how great it is to be alive. We forget that just being alive is a grand thing. Don’t throw away all the beautiful thousand moments for just one moment. There so much more to be enjoyed and appreciated right now. But we tend to look so much longer in what we don’t have than what we already have. You don’t have to like what you have for you to enjoy it. You just have to appreciate more what you have and complain less on what you don’t have. Read The Power of Now
A dose of self-love is all we need. All of us have grown up being taught different. We are told how it is important to love others. love your neighbor, share your things with others, make dad and mum happy… few of us are taught to love ourselves. Ironically we are told self-love is selfish. What we don’t seem to realize is we can’t give what we don’t have. Nourish yourself, take care of yourself. Give yourself all the love you need. Don’t look outside yourself for love. As we all know its tragic to expect others to give us that love. They just can’t love you the way you want them to. The more you take care of yourself, the more you have to give to others. You can’t give what you don’t have.Read Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It